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Domestic violence & narcissism – What every person should know! Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be devastating and extremely abusive!

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Domestic violence & narcissism – What every person should know!
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be devastating and extremely abusive!
Domestic violence and emotional abuse are behaviors used by one person in a relationship to control the other. Partners may be married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated or dating.
Examples of abuse include:
■name-calling or put-downs
■keeping a partner from contacting their family or friends
■withholding money
■stopping a partner from getting or keeping a job
■actual or threatened physical harm
■sexual assault
■stalking
■intimidation and gas-lighting (gas-lighting is a manipulation tactic of abuse to gain power, where the victim is destabilized psychologically and emotionally  - to the point where the victim questions her sanity and reality. So they only end up trusting the abuser.
Domestic Violence can be criminal and includes physical assault (hitting, pushing, shoving, etc.), sexual abuse (unwanted or for…

Move towards the light - spiritual wellbeing.

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Move towards the light... been watching my mint plant do this for the last few days, each spear of mint and stem making the adjustment for survival.

 It knows what it needs and responds accordingly by turning towards the light. Since then it has begun to flourish and thrive.

 We can take a leaf out of nature's book. If only we looked to mother nature for more answers and to show us how to be, cohabit, heal and flourish as we are part of nature.


The same natural laws apply to us for flourishing and thriving in life.
http://lawsoftheuniverse.weebly.com/12-immutable-universal-laws.html

Stop living in past mistakes! (Emotional wellbeing) Start living with acceptance and gratitude!

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Stop living in past mistakes! (Emotional wellbeing) 

Start living with acceptance and gratitude!

Living in the past can only cause depressed mood & negative emotions... (where quality of life is low) 
"The Past Isn’t Going Anywhere - And by focusing on it neither will you." So you might as well make peace with it! Use the past as a lesson, a way to learn from your mistakes and become enlightened. Everybody makes mistakes! 

Look for the lessons rather than blame, shame and guilt. Living a life that is solution focused, with purpose and intention allows you to create a better quality of life moving forward. Our life quality is related to our level of contentment, joy and happiness experienced. You can learn the process and use the tools of how to move from past to present thinking and focus, for a better & more content quality of life.

I saw the power and the impact of this when I was working with patients living with HIV. This made me think about the concepts of acceptance…

Managing your stress and anxiety in the workplace - Occupational, emotional, social and physical well-being in the workplace.

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We have all experienced feeling stressed and anxious at work from time to time. It is important to understand the root cause of our stress and to make the necessary adjustments to manage our stress. Here are some tips for understanding and managing stress in the workplace for your well-being.
Common causes of stress in the workplace Long hours.Job security, particularly in relation to terms of employment.Poor work relationships due to lack of support, bullying and harassment, as well as poor relationships with colleagues.Lack of resources, communications and time. Lack of information about what is going on in the organization and how you make a positive contribution.Poor time management or lack of time.Overload and unrealistic deadlines and expectations.Control & micro management by manager and lack of involvement in the decision making process relating to the job.Feeling that you are not good enough.Work interfering with home/personal life, not …

Emotional well-being - Rising above adversity like the lotus flower...

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Emotional well-being  -  Rising above adversity like the lotus flower...
A few months back while on holiday and retreat in Bali, I woke up just before dawn while staying at the Ubud eco village and meditated next to the muddy pond awaiting the opening of the lotus flower. This flower resonates deeply! No mud no lotus... 
Lotus flowers have strong symbolic ties to survivors. The lotus flower grows out of mud. Yet, it rises above the surface clean, blooms with remarkable beauty, and its beauty remains untouched by the mud. The flower closes and sinks underwater at night, but it rises and opens again at dawn. Lotus flowers have strong symbolic ties to survivors. They start as small flowers down at the very bottom of a pond and then slowly grow and rise towards the surface, continually moving towards the light. Once the lotus flower has reached the surface of the water, it begins to blossom and turns into a magnificent flower.

"The lotus flower is a symbol for courage, purity, and aw…

Move towards the light - spiritual well-being

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Move towards the light - spiritual well-being.

 I've been watching my mint plant do this for the last few days, it moved towards the light.  Each spear of mint and stem making the adjustment for survival. It knows what it needs and responds accordingly by turning towards the light. Since then it has begun to flourish and thrive. We can take a leaf out of nature's book. 
Nature can be a great teacher and show us how to be, cohabit, heal and flourish as we are part of nature. The same natural laws apply to us for flourishing and thriving in life, we must move towards light spiritually, emotionally, mentally, socially and physically.

My care! 
Marie Joshua 
Psycho-social & physical well-being practitioner






Judgmental or discerning - social well-being

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There is difference between being judgmental and being discerning.

The face when I hear people being ignorantly judgmental...

There is a difference between being discerning and being judgmental. Being judgmental comes from a place of negativity, insecurity, weakness, low sense of self and unfair and ignorant bias. Developing spatial, social and emotional intelligence goes a long way.

 A person who learns to be both discerning and non-judgmental will experience tremendous freedom and authentic connection to self and others. Having sound judgment through practical wisdom and intelligent discernment is very different to being judgmental! But then you would be a Supreme court judge...

"Understanding trauma and that we each respond to it differently will help us be supportive and nonjudgmental toward each other" -- Stephanie_S_Covington
Who are we/you to judge...
Rather, we should try understand for better social well-being.
Personally I never trust people that openly claim to be good j…

Well-being with Marie - Extraordinary living: Self-acceptance as a catalyst for flourishing in your life – live your extraordinary life!

Well-being with Marie - Extraordinary living: Self-acceptance as a catalyst for flourishing in your life – live your extraordinary life!: Self-acceptance as a catalyst for flourishing in your life – live your extraordinary life!

Well-being with Marie - Extraordinary living: The eccentric & free spirit 'hybrid...' bizarre ex...

Well-being with Marie - Extraordinary living: The eccentric & free spirit 'hybrid...' bizarre ex...:   The eccentric & free spirit 'hybrid…' Bizarre excellence! “We walk amongst you every day, some may ...

The eccentric & free spirit 'hybrid...' bizarre excellence!

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The eccentric & free spirit 'hybrid…'

Bizarre excellence!
“We walk amongst you every day, some may love us some may despise us… ”
Have you ever felt like you were born in the wrong era in the wrong place and perhaps at the wrong time?Surrounded by people who just don’t see and feel what you see in the world around you?

Has your open mind and free thinking landed you in some hot water with the more conventional andconservative thinkers?

Are people telling you “No, we don’t do it like that” or “Stop trying to be something that you are not!”?

Are you the kind of person who is considered the oddball by mainstream folk because of your diverse interests and how you go about engaging and connecting with life in general?

Are you creative beyond imagination, with a quirky eclectic sense of style? Do you see the world in technicolor, have diverse interests, and dance to the music in your head. Do you have all your fingers out, feeling for the pulse of the universe and tapping to its beat?

W…